The Magic of Your Quiet Voice

When your child gets louder, you get quieter and calmer. You are the regulator of their emotions. When your child is in a heightened emotional state, you want to provide a calming and safe environment for them. Think of yourself as a librarian. When someone is speaking loudly, the librarian always speaks very softly and slowly and it makes you speak softer too. Before you engage with your child, take a deep breath and pause. When you start to speak, do so in a calming soft tone. This will provide a safe environment for your child to express their feelings.