How To Handle Tantrums

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There are different types of tantrums but here are the top 3 and how to handle them: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

😖 The sleepy/hungry tantrum. Keep in mind when your child is feeling this way, it is not their fault. Try (and I know it is hard) to plan your day around their nap and meal times. That said, I frequently will do errands during snack time so they can be occupied while I’m getting things done. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

😖 The control tantrum. “I want things my way and any way you do it is wrong.” For example, I peel the banana, and my child wanted to peel it themselves. In that case, you validate "You’re mad because you wanted to peel the banana. You may have this one if you want and next time I will ask you first." When they start to scream, let them sit with their feelings and say "I can't hear you right now, when you are calm, I can help you." Some children will want cuddles while they are calming down and some won't.

😖 The defiance tantrum where you ask them to do something, and they just say “no,” which leads to a tantrum. This is where language is critical. Getting a toddler to do something can be a task in and of itself. For example, instead of saying can you put your clothes away, try using the word may. I.e., “you MAY put your clothes away” as it is very empowering and they can do it on their own. When this doesn't work, try to make a game out of it and say “I see a yellow shirt on the floor, I wonder where that goes...” This helps grab the child's attention and makes them think it is a game.